keninabu!

Practicalities

Fuck.

The following scenario pisses me off.

Say a couple is in a relationship that seems perfect at the time. They then split up because of some impractical thing, like distance or parental disapproval, or some crap like that. Suppose as well that intrinsically, they really love each other and things are really good. Years later, when the whole thing is over and they are with someone else, they look back and say "oh we were young then... and so naive and impractical."

I hate it when people talk like that. I hate it when people tell me "love is not enough" and all that shit. I hate it when these fucking idiot adults talk like this, and look back at their youth loves and think "haha, I was so dumb".

FUCK PRACTICALITY. FUCK NAIVITY. FUCK THAT 'WE WERE YOUNG AND STUPID' BULLSHIT.

AND DON'T FUCKING SAY "LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH": IF YOU ARE SAYING THAT, IT SIMPLY MEANS YOU DO NOT LOVE ENOUGH.

If you can actually think that you were young and naive, it might well mean that you're just growing older and more jaded.

Since when does love have to be practical?

Love is an ideal and an emotion. If you love, you love. You don't love according to a bank account or a law. If you love, you go all the way out for love. You accomodate for love. You lose yourself in love. Practical aspects accomodate love, not the other way round, if you feel strongly enough and you are lucky enough to have found that one-person-in-a-billion-who-will-travel-half-the-world-to-be-with-you.

Love, as Robert Graves wrote, is as when the

"...young bird-catcher
Swept off his tall hat to the Squire's own daughter,
So let the imprisoned larks escape and fly
Singing about her head, as she rode by."

Love is the spur of the moment emotion you feel for someone special.

Love is the spontaneity as you walk hand in hand with the special someone.

Love is the feeling behind all of that, and the feeling of being here NOW with someone special.

To love is to treasure the person, to treasure the feeling, to want to do anything to be with the person.

Love is about loyalty to the person, and not so much about a marriage of convenience: you don't just change allegiances just because it is more convenient. You change allegiances when your emotions about it change.

Love is an ideal, kept alive, maintained.

Maybe I really am too idealistic and much too romantic for this world.

And, to avoid muddling her thoughts, I will only publish this after her own turmoil is all over, and not before.

posted by keninabu @ 11:32 AM